Scared

Weaponized Shame

Weaponized shame is the intentional use of shame to lower another person’s status. Underlying all bullying, is the intent to cause someone shame.  In addition to being crucified, Jesus was bullied and shamed to death! Often overlooked because of the pain of crucifixion is the Roman’s primary objective of inflicting maximum public shame and humiliation…

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Trust God’s 2020 Vision

The rare neurological disease that I have has left me with permanently damaged vision. Everything I see is somewhat foggy. The density of the fogginess is constantly changing. Sometimes it is wispy and I see relatively well and at other times, it is dense and disorienting. As a result, I can no longer drive. My…

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Are You Hurting In Silence?

During this past month, several people have shared stories with me about their pains, struggles and unimaginable grief. Too often, people try to face difficult life issues alone and in silence. For much of my, life I tried that too. It didn’t work well.  It was a bad idea. Through this ministry, I try to…

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Without Wax

Do a google search for the word sincere and you will find a debate regarding the origins of the word. One story, most likely arising from folk lore, states that sincere is derived from two Latin words: sine (without) and cera (wax). I am no expert in etymology, but I can state emphatically, that as…

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Change, Loss and Grief

Life’s one constant is change. People and organizations change. People experience change from birth until death. Change means we have lost something. The more emotionally attached we are to something, the more that loss leads to grief. Changes happen at our churches too. When people experience change at their church, their sentimental, emotional and historical…

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Life’s Perfect Storms

On Sept. 20, 1991, a boat known as the Andrea Gail left port in Gloucester, Mass. for the Grand Banks of Newfoundland. Meanwhile, storms were brewing off the coast. Two weather fronts and a hurricane were colliding. It became known as The Perfect Storm. Life on the sea can serve as a worthy metaphor for…

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Shame, Silence And Slavery

Today marks the 400th edition of 4th Day Letters. In the Bible, the number 400 is closely associated with the subject of bondage.  In Genesis 15:13, Abram is told his people will be enslaved and oppressed for 400 years. Sadly, we are all still enslaved to sin today. God desires to set us free. Today’s…

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Two Lies…One Trap

Did you know that Satan employs a very specific strategy to disrupt our relationship with God? He employees two diametrically opposite lies. They work in concert to trap us in despair and isolate us from God. He uses one lie to lure us into his trap. Once in the trap, he uses a different lie…

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Transparent Living

How many people know the real you? How many people truly know the person you see in the mirror?  All of us wear masks. We attempt to hide parts of ourselves from others. We prefer to present a public persona with our flaws and short comings well hidden. There are dangers in this charade? Who…

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Blessed, Broken and Scared: Becoming a Eucharistic People

Blessed, Broken and Scared …odd title isn’t it? It is both the title for the retreats that I provide for churches around the country as well as the title for my upcoming new book. I plan to have it published before the end of this year. My hope is that as people read this book,…

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