Love All Over Again

Most married couples will tell you that there have been seasons in their marriage when their love for each other grew cold. Their marriage wasn’t necessarily in trouble, but the couple had become so busy with the daily routines of life that they were failing to share their close, loving, and intimate signs of affection. This can happen with our relationship with God too. Lent is a good time to fall in love with God all over again. Please read more.

I was in my car when an old country song came on the radio. It was a love song, and it caused me to pause and ponder my relationship with God. I knew in an instance it would make its way into a 4th Day Letter. The song was Love Me Like You Used To.

In 1987, country singer Tanya Tucker had a huge hit with this song written by Paul Davis and Bobby Emmons. In the song, Tanya sang about a love that had grown cold. The early spark of romance had grown dim. She invites her lover to hold her like he wants to, and not like he has to. She sang about the time when they would sit around and talk forever. Now, she says, they hardly talk at all. She sang about a time when they were there for each other, ready to catch each other if they fell. In the refrain, she begs her lover to love her again like he used to when their love was brand new.”  Click here to listen to the song:

Our relationship with God has seasons too. Sometimes it is hard to pray. Sometimes we hear God’s voice and sometimes only silence. Sometimes our prayer life is alive and sometimes it grows stale and mechanical. Sometimes we are just walking through the motions of going to church on Sunday, but our heart really isn’t invested in it. Much like a married couple may need to get away on a second honeymoon to fall in love all over again, maybe we can use the season of Lent to fall back in love with God.

In order for a couple to maintain their love, they need to spend quality time together, they need to engage in meaningful conversation, and both the husband and the wife need to work at eliminating any bad habits that hurt their spouse.

The same is true with God. We need to have quality time with Him, we need to talk with Him, and we need to remove anything that disrupts our relationship with Him. The season of Lent offers us the tools we need to reignite the fire of our love for God.

Lent begins on Ash Wednesday and continues with 40 days of preparation prior to the celebration of our Lord’s Resurrection at Easter. Lent is a season of prayer, fasting, and almsgiving. Lent should not be viewed as an obligation that we have to do, but rather something we can freely choose to do out of our love for the Lord. It’s our chance to fall in love again!

Prayer gives us the opportunity to share our deepest thoughts and concerns with God. Said differently, prayer is the love language we use to strengthen our relationship with Him.

Fasting gives us the opportunity to deprive ourselves of some worldly things. It helps to foster our hunger for a deeper and more intimate encounter with God. In marriage, when outside things get in the way of the couple’s relationship, they need to be removed. Worldly things can also distract us from God. Fasting helps us reorient our focus towards the One who loves us most.

Almsgiving means donating money or goods to the poor and performing other acts of charity. Married couples grow and strengthen their marriage when they give back to their communities and to others in need. These selfless acts of giving back, draw the couple closer together and strengthens their bond. Similarly, we give alms during Lent to share with others the love the Lord has shared with us.

Permit me to make one additional suggestion for Lent. We all know that writing love letters to our spouse can help keep the flames of love burning. I invite you to consider writing 40 letters during Lent. I encourage you to write one letter each day of Lent to 40 different people. In your letters (or emails), tell the other person how they have left a positive impact on your life and tell them what a blessing they have been. These letters will bring joy to those you write to, they will bring joy to you and they will help you experience God’s love for you.

I am looking forward to falling in love with God all over again this Lenten Season. I hope you are too.

Heavenly Father, strengthen my love for you. Your love for me never fails, but my love for you seems to ebb and flow. The mundane things of life seem to get in the way. Make these 40 days of Lent a time where I see you with the eyes of a young bride seeing her husband on their wedding day. Amen!


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Brian Pusateri
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  1. Jim Nolan on March 1, 2022 at 12:28 pm

    Thanks Brian, I needed that. I love the 4o letter suggestion. I think I will do a combination of letters, emails, and texts. You always offer such good advice. God bless, Jim

    P.S. We just did our RCIA class on Reconciliation and we also use “broken” as our opening prayer for that class and “when God Ran” as our closing prayer. You introduced those sings to us at SCI Benner. I love those songs. They express such powerful emotions and beliefs. Thank you.

  2. Jane Ward on March 1, 2022 at 10:10 am

    This is your best ever, Brian, I’m keeping it to read and remind many times, especially on those days I feel broken.

    God Bless You!

  3. Gordon Brown on March 1, 2022 at 4:08 am

    What an inspirational 4th Day Letter. You have touched on things that reverberate with me deeply. Thank you so much. ????

    • Brian Pusateri on March 1, 2022 at 5:41 am


      I am happy to know that the Holy Spirit spoke to you through this message!


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