Killed By Friendly Fire

According to a comprehensive survey on Wikipedia regarding casualties (both fatal and nonfatal), 21 percent of the casualties in World War II were attributable to friendly fire, as were 39 percent of the casualties in Vietnam, and 52 percent of the casualties in the first Gulf War. Spiritually speaking, what percent of the causalities inflicted upon Christians do you think are caused by other Christians? I invite you to read more…

It is my personal opinion that no one has done more to harm and impede the spread of Christianity than unchristian Christians. Perhaps we should all be shuttering in our shoes when we pray these words from The Lord’s Prayer: “forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” Do we really mean this when we say it? Do we honestly want God to judge us as we judge others?

How many times have you heard of someone leaving one church and moving to another or one denomination and changing to another, or worst of all, leaving Christianity all together because they were hurt by the gossip or judgment of another Christian? I would submit to you that this happens every day in all of our churches.

It only takes one errant gun shot or missile fire to kill one of our own soldiers. Likewise, it only takes one judgmental Christian to drive another Christian away or to dissuade a non-Christian from becoming one. Have you ever been hurt by another Christian? Have you ever hurt another Christian by your lack of mercy and compassion?

Mahatma Gandhi, a respected Hindu, was said to have admired Jesus and it is reported that he often quoted from the Sermon on the Mount. Gandhi was once asked: “Mr. Gandhi, though you quote the words of Christ often, why is that you appear to so adamantly reject becoming his follower?” Gandhi replied, “Oh, I don’t reject your Christ. I love your Christ. It’s just that so many of you Christians are so unlike your Christ.”

Here is what another non-Christian has to say. This is a quote from the book, The Art of Happiness, by Dalai Lama: “If you wish the happiness of the others, be compassionate. If you wish your own happiness, be compassionate.”

Now let’s look to see what Jesus has to say on this topic. In Matthew 7:1-5 we read: “Jesus said to his disciples: “Stop judging, that you may not be judged. For as you judge, so will you be judged, and the measure with which you measure will be measured out to you.”  These are eerily similar words to what we pray in the Lord’s Prayer. We have been put on notice. I don’t know about you, but Jesus’ exhortation here scares me a little.

One of my favorite Christian songs captures this idea of Christians hurting Christians through “friendly fire.” The song is Jesus, Friend of Sinners by Casting Crowns. I encourage you to take a few minutes and listen to this song. Here are a few lines from the lyrics in this song:

  • Jesus, friend of sinners, we have strayed so far away. We cut down people in your name but the sword was never ours to swing.
  • The world is on their way to You but they’re tripping over me.
  • A plank eyed saint with dirty hands and a heart divided
  • Open our eyes to the world at the end of our pointing fingers
  • Let our hearts be led by mercy. Help us reach with open hearts and open doors. Oh Jesus, friend of sinners, break our hearts for what breaks yours.
  • Let the memory of Your mercy bring Your people to their knees.


I find this song to be so powerful. I hope you like it too.

In John 8:1-11, we read about the woman caught in adultery. Mosaic Law commanded that the woman be stoned but Jesus loved her, He did not condemn her and He simply told her to go and sin no more. Everyone else was ready to cast their stone…until Jesus told them that only those without sin should throw their stone. They all dropped their stone and walked away.

Jesus has granted so much mercy to each one of us that it is hard to understand why we ever treat anyone with anything but kindness, understanding and mercy. Yet, we so often fail to do that. In Matthew 18:21-35, we read the parable of the unforgiving servant. In this passage, Jesus warns against accepting God’s mercy and then failing to be merciful to others in return. The servant who was forgiven a huge debt but showed no mercy towards a fellow servant who owed him only a little ended up being handed over to torturers. We all need to heed this warning.

It is high time that we as Christians put an end to all of the “friendly fire.” As followers of Jesus Christ, we are called to forgive and be merciful to others. Mercy is God’s gift to us; we therefore need to pray and ask God to grant us the ability to be merciful towards others. Let us always remember: “Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy” (Matthew 5:7).

Heavenly Father you gave us this teaching in the Bible: “You hypocrite, remove the wooden beam from your eye first; then you will see clearly to remove the splinter from your brother’s eye.” Help us to put this into practice in our daily lives, amen.

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  1. Joanne Fairchild on June 27, 2018 at 8:50 am

    I volunteer at a transitional living program for homeless families with children. We are not a church but are identified as a faith based non-profit….meaning we are Christians trying to help others. Obviously, Satan has intervened and allowed several of the churches in our community to justify not supporting our program because we allow same sex couples with their children to stay with us and work the program so they become self sufficient and return to a stable home of their own. Mercy is not easy. You don’t show mercy only to those that you agree with, but Christ says to just show mercy and not judge. We let Him judge the hearts of others and we try to keep our hearts full of hope for ALL families and children that come through our doors. Often times, our facility is the best place they have ever lived. Their road to recovery often involves overcoming drug addiction or drinking. It always involves poverty and low self esteem. When new families are welcomed by other resident families who have received mercy, they too become hopeful for their own success. Look at mercy as a “get out of jail free” card that we can hand out to everyone we meet. Someday we will all need one handed back to us. I don’t want to stand before Christ and tell him I let someone go hungry and cold because I judged them to be a sinner. I will let Christ take care of the heart of others.

    • Brian Pusateri on June 27, 2018 at 10:44 am


      What a powerful testimony to mercy. I applaud your groups efforts. Don’t let the attitude of other bring you down. Keep up the great work. Thanks for sharing this with us. May God bless your works.


  2. Jim Meersman on June 26, 2018 at 5:27 pm

    What an Outstanding letter,really makes you stop and think about your own life. Hope you have a great trip to the Holy Land I wish I was able to go with. I know it will be an Outstanding trip and experience. Jim

    • Brian Pusateri on June 26, 2018 at 5:42 pm


      We should all do personal reflection on this issue when we say the Lord’s Prayer. Some people might want to change the words to: Please don’t forgive my trespasses as I forgive those who trespass against me.

      Jim, I hope the Holy Land trip gets enough people to sign up. We need 16 people to make the pilgrimage work.

      Thanks for posting.


  3. Marilyn Oberembt on June 26, 2018 at 12:08 pm

    Excellent letter on a very important topic. I am working very hard every day to change my thinking and giving others the benefit of the doubt.

    • Brian Pusateri on June 26, 2018 at 12:11 pm


      I think we all need to work extra hard on being more merciful and less judgmental. Thanks for posting.


  4. Felicia on June 26, 2018 at 7:19 am

    Dear Brian, thank you for the reminder. Being merciful like Jesus is our calling. Lord Jesus, give me a humble and contrite heart.

    • Brian Pusateri on June 26, 2018 at 7:23 am


      Thanks for your post and AMEN to what you said!


  5. Traci Williams on June 26, 2018 at 4:03 am

    I agree with you 100%. We are definitely our own worst enemy. I’d like to add that this issue is also a very large and real part that so many of our youth leave the Church. They see all of us not practicing what we preach and don’t want to be a part of it. It’s past time we listen to Jesus and just love one another. Thank you, Brian.

    • Brian Pusateri on June 26, 2018 at 5:00 am


      Thank you for your post and for pointing out the issue with our children leaving the church. We must be Christians who live life filled with compassion and mercy.


    • Dr Paul Cates on June 26, 2018 at 6:52 am

      Wonderful seeing you on Sunday
      We need to get together for a cup of coffee and fellowship soon.

      This is a very needed article all of us need to hear every day.

      Keep up GREAT work

      Dr. Paul

      • Brian Pusateri on June 26, 2018 at 7:21 am

        Thanks Paul!

        I am up for that coffee anytime. Just give me a call.


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